{"id":8016,"date":"2023-09-17T12:45:06","date_gmt":"2023-09-17T07:15:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/?p=8016"},"modified":"2023-09-21T11:50:07","modified_gmt":"2023-09-21T06:20:07","slug":"tu-mere-pyar-ka-phool-hai-the-agony-of-an-unwed-mother","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/tu-mere-pyar-ka-phool-hai-the-agony-of-an-unwed-mother\/","title":{"rendered":"Tu Mere Pyar Ka Phool Hai \u2014 The Agony of an Unwed Mother"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-8017 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/dhool-ka-phool-song.jpg\" alt=\"dhool ka phool song\" width=\"1000\" height=\"561\" srcset=\"https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/dhool-ka-phool-song.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/dhool-ka-phool-song-150x84.jpg 150w, https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/dhool-ka-phool-song-400x224.jpg 400w, https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/dhool-ka-phool-song-768x431.jpg 768w, https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/dhool-ka-phool-song-300x168.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Back in the 1950s, for a single mother with a child born out of the wedlock \u2014 the shame and the fear of society\u2019s reaction hung like a Sword of Damocles especially in not so liberal countries like India. The plight of a one such woman is the heart-rending dilemma of <em>Dhool ka Phool<\/em>, a gutsy movie standing apart \u2014 from the period films, family dramas, romantic tales and sob stories \u2014 that populated the screens in those times. And who better to voice the pain of the trapped woman than Sahir?<\/p>\n<p>This distraught mother looks at the tainted face of innocence in her hands and whispers in his ears \u2013<\/p>\n<p>\u0924\u0942 \u092e\u0947\u0930\u0947 \u092a\u094d\u092f\u093e\u0930 \u0915\u093e \u092b\u0942\u0932 \u0939\u0948<br \/>\n\u0915\u0947 \u092e\u0947\u0930\u0940 \u092d\u0942\u0932 \u0939\u0948<br \/>\n\u0915\u0941\u091b \u0915\u0939 \u0928\u0939\u0940\u0902 \u0938\u0915\u0924\u0940<br \/>\n\u092a\u0930 \u0915\u093f\u0938\u0940 \u0915\u093e \u0915\u093f\u092f\u093e \u0924\u0942 \u092d\u0930\u0947<br \/>\n\u092f\u0939 \u0938\u0947\u0939 \u0928\u0939\u0940\u0902 \u0938\u0915\u0924\u0940<\/p>\n<p><em>Tu mere pyar ka phool hai<br \/>\nKe meri bhool hai<br \/>\nKuchh keh nahi sakti<br \/>\nPar kisi ka kiya tu bhare<br \/>\nYeh seh nahi sakti<\/em><\/p>\n<p>The song begins by establishing the \u201c<em>fait accompli<\/em>\u201d \u2014 the single mother has braved the first hurdle. She has given birth to the child! In many societies, the moral police and the keepers of faith (all self-appointed, of course) have readymade, time-tested solutions for the unwed mother. The newborn is hurriedly given up for adoption or, abandoned in an open space or a doorstep, or left in a jungle to be a feast for the wild beasts.<\/p>\n<p>But this woman, now having repulsed the pressures to deny her, her motherhood, is beset with a huge challenge \u2014 how to bring up her child. She thinks of the baggage the child has to carry all his life.<\/p>\n<p>\u092e\u0947\u0930\u0940 \u092c\u0926\u0928\u093e\u092e\u0940 \u0924\u0947\u0930\u0947 \u0938\u093e\u0925 \u092a\u0932\u0947\u0917\u0940, \u0938\u093e\u0925 \u092a\u0932\u0947\u0917\u0940<br \/>\n\u0938\u0941\u0928 \u0938\u0941\u0928 \u0924\u093e\u0928\u0947 \u092e\u0947\u0930\u0940 \u0915\u094b\u0916 \u091c\u0932\u0947\u0917\u0940, \u0939\u093e\u092f, \u0915\u094b\u0916 \u091c\u0932\u0947\u0917\u0940<\/p>\n<p><em>Meri badnaami tere sath palegi<br \/>\nSath palegi<br \/>\nSun sun taane meri kokh jalegi<br \/>\nHaaye kokh jalegi<\/em><\/p>\n<p>My infamy will be a constant companion, my child, all your life. It will never fade, will grow like a poisonous weed. The taunts hurled at you will make my womb shrivel with shame, rage with the fire of guilt.<\/p>\n<p>\u0915\u093e\u0901\u091f\u094b\u0902 \u092d\u0930\u0947 \u0939\u0948\u0902 \u0938\u092c \u0930\u093e\u0938\u094d\u0924\u0947<br \/>\n\u0924\u0947\u0930\u0947 \u0935\u093e\u0938\u094d\u0924\u0947 \u091c\u0940\u0935\u0928 \u0915\u0940 \u0921\u0917\u0930 \u092e\u0947\u0902<br \/>\n\u0915\u094c\u0928 \u092c\u0928\u0947\u0917\u093e \u0924\u0947\u0930\u093e \u0906\u0938\u0930\u093e<br \/>\n\u092c\u0947\u0926\u0930\u094d\u0926 \u0928\u0917\u0930 \u092e\u0947\u0902<\/p>\n<p><em>Kaanton bhare hain sab raaste<br \/>\nTere vaaste jeewan ki dagar mein<br \/>\nKaun banega tera aasra<br \/>\nBedard nagar mein<\/em><\/p>\n<p>It is a path strewn with thorns. My child, who will lift you up and protect you from the hurt and the distress that awaits you, I wonder and I grieve!<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-8018\" src=\"https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/dhool-ka-phool.jpg\" alt=\"dhool ka phool\" width=\"1003\" height=\"557\" srcset=\"https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/dhool-ka-phool.jpg 1003w, https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/dhool-ka-phool-150x83.jpg 150w, https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/dhool-ka-phool-400x222.jpg 400w, https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/dhool-ka-phool-768x426.jpg 768w, https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/dhool-ka-phool-300x167.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1003px) 100vw, 1003px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u092a\u0942\u091b\u0947\u0917\u093e \u0915\u094b\u0908 \u0924\u094b \u0915\u093f\u0938\u0947 \u092c\u093e\u092a \u0915\u0939\u0947\u0917\u093e<br \/>\n\u092c\u093e\u092a \u0915\u0939\u0947\u0917\u093e<br \/>\n\u091c\u0917 \u0924\u0941\u091d\u0947 \u092b\u0947\u0902\u0915\u093e \u0939\u0941\u0906 \u092a\u093e\u092a \u0915\u0939\u0947\u0917\u093e<br \/>\n\u0939\u093e\u092f \u092a\u093e\u092a \u0915\u0939\u0947\u0917\u093e<\/p>\n<p>\u092c\u0928\u0915\u0947 \u0930\u0939\u0947\u0917\u0940 \u0936\u0930\u094d\u092e\u093f\u0902\u0926\u0917\u0940 \u0924\u0947\u0930\u0940 \u095b\u093f\u0928\u094d\u0926\u0917\u0940<br \/>\n\u091c\u092c \u0924\u0915 \u0924\u0942 \u091c\u093f\u092f\u0947\u0917\u093e<br \/>\n\u0906\u091c \u092a\u093f\u0932\u093e\u090a\u0901 \u0924\u0941\u091d\u0947 \u0926\u0942\u0927 \u092e\u0948\u0902<br \/>\n\u0915\u0932 \u095b\u0939\u0930 \u092a\u0940\u092f\u0947\u0917\u093e<\/p>\n<p><em>Puchhega koyi to kise baap kahega<br \/>\nBaap kahega<br \/>\nJag tujhe phenka hua paap kahega<br \/>\nHaaye paap kahega<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Banke rahegi sharmindagi teri zindagi<\/em><br \/>\n<em>Jab tak tu jiyega<\/em><br \/>\n<em>Aaj pilaun tujhde doodh main<\/em><br \/>\n<em>Kal zehar piyega<\/em><\/p>\n<p>What will you answer to those who enquire about your father? His whereabouts, his absence? The world will readily castigate you as a discarded outcome of a shameful liaison. Your life will be a story of shame spent dodging the sling-shots of social martinets. The moral brigade will rise as one, putting aside their own execrable follies to target you. I have suckled you at my breast and fed you milk, my child, but tomorrow you will have to survive the venom that awaits you!<\/p>\n<p>Unlike many film songs that enhance their appeal by moving outdoors, this one stays indoors. In a dank, cheerless room where no streak of light enters, no gust of wind blows in. Nothing that could come in the way of the <em>guftagu<\/em> between the infant, and his determined mother. Even the elements stay away, as the two together, map their hazy, uncertain future.<\/p>\n<p>Mala Sinha puts in a surprisingly emotional performance, with love, helplessness, and rage reflected on her face as the movie progresses. A great takeaway from her <em>Pyaasa<\/em> experience, perhaps!<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #c2150a;\"> <em><strong>Tu mere pyar ka phool hai<\/strong><\/em> (<em>Dhool Ka Phool<\/em>, 1959) N Dutta \/ Sahir Ludhianvi \/ Lata Mangeshkar<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/jGiIZHX7jgg?si=4PaqDhit1QHoGyO-\" width=\"100%\" height=\"380\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">\ufeff<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>For centuries, we have talked about our glorious culture and traditions in glowing terms. But then little attention has been paid to the ruthless atrocities perpetrated on women. A child widow or an unwed mother, brought out the beast in ordinary people, as they believed, or were made to believe, by the keepers of tradition that they were purging the society of evils.\u00a0As Hemingway put it, they were \u2014\u00a0<em>Puritans in public, perverts in private.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Dhool ka Phool<\/em>, in a microcosm, reflects the plight, and the predicament these women were made to live with. It shows a rare sensitivity in its treatment of the subject and the songs are the articulate wheels that take the story forward.<\/p>\n<p>The love songs in <em>Dhool Ka Phool<\/em> are utterly delightful \u2014 remember that duel in college poetry contest, <em>Tere pyar ka aasra chahta hoon<\/em> or that humming duet<em> Jo tum muskura do<\/em>? But the seminal compositions are the two which stand out \u2014\u00a0<em>Tu mere pyar ka phool hai<\/em> and the song that celebrates being human above everything else:<\/p>\n<p><em>Tu Hindu banega na Mussalmaan banega<\/em><br \/>\n<em>Insaan ki aulaad hai insaan banega<\/em><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_8019\" style=\"width: 360px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><img decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-8019\" class=\"wp-image-8019\" src=\"https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/br-chopra.jpg\" alt=\"br chopra\" width=\"350\" height=\"467\" srcset=\"https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/br-chopra.jpg 450w, https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/br-chopra-112x150.jpg 112w, https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/br-chopra-300x401.jpg 300w, https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2023\/09\/br-chopra-150x200.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 350px) 100vw, 350px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-8019\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">BR Chopra<\/p><\/div>\n<p>And so many years later, we cannot but shout out the name of the producer B R Chopra, who courageously broached the taboo subject of an unwed mother and an unwanted child. Salute to these visionaries on celluloid who made the entertainment-driven Hindi films look inward!<\/p>\n<p>I cannot resist stating my unstinted admiration for\u00a0 trailblazing cinematic contribution of B R Chopra. Born in 1914, he completed his MA in English Literature and worked for a Film Magazine <em>\u2018Cine Herald\u2019<\/em>. After Partition the family moved to\u00a0India and BR, an outlier to the film industry, decided to become a\u00a0 filmmaker. His initial forays did not meet with success. After making <em>Afsana<\/em> and <em>Naya Daur<\/em>, which met with box office success, he felt he should make movies that reflect the deep-seated blemishes of the society. In 1958, he made his first clarion call to the collective conscience of cine-goers by making <em>Sadhana<\/em>,\u00a0 a withering peep into the life of a prostitute. After this seminal venture earned plaudits from commoners and connoisseurs alike he boldly carried on the crusade of exposing the lesions and lacerations that women in our society had suffered for ages; that was <em>Dhool Ka Phool<\/em>, a scathing expose of the plight of a woman, scorned and reviled for no fault of hers.<\/p>\n<p><em>(The views expressed are personal)<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>More Must Read in The Song Story<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/chal-ri-sajani-ab-kya-soche-torn-between-two-worlds\/\">Chal Ri Sajani Ab Kya Soche \u2013 Torn Between Two Worlds<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/apni-kahaani-chhod-ja-leave-a-story-that-will-be-retold\/\">Apni Kahaani Chhod Ja: Leave a Story That Will Be Retold<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/jaane-kya-dhoondti-rehti-hai\/\">Jaane Kya Dhoondti Rehti Hai: Of a World Where Love Is Incinerated<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/learningandcreativity.com\/silhouette\/nadiya-kinare-abhimaan\/\">When Cinema Matched Music Beat by Beat: Nadiya Kinare in Abhimaan<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div class=\"frame_area\"><iframe src=\"\/\/ws-in.amazon-adsystem.com\/widgets\/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&amp;OneJS=1&amp;Operation=GetAdHtml&amp;MarketPlace=IN&amp;source=ss&amp;ref=as_ss_li_til&amp;ad_type=product_link&amp;tracking_id=learcrea-21&amp;marketplace=amazon&amp;region=IN&amp;placement=8193955501&amp;asins=8193955501&amp;linkId=9bc0354d0c0658b9eefefc7468bb6367&amp;show_border=true&amp;link_opens_in_new_window=true\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\"><\/iframe> <iframe src=\"\/\/ws-in.amazon-adsystem.com\/widgets\/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&amp;OneJS=1&amp;Operation=GetAdHtml&amp;MarketPlace=IN&amp;source=ss&amp;ref=as_ss_li_til&amp;ad_type=product_link&amp;tracking_id=learcrea-21&amp;marketplace=amazon&amp;region=IN&amp;placement=8193955528&amp;asins=8193955528&amp;linkId=bb22301c0bdc58dd9bc15324bb8365b7&amp;show_border=true&amp;link_opens_in_new_window=true\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\"><\/iframe> <iframe src=\"\/\/ws-in.amazon-adsystem.com\/widgets\/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&amp;OneJS=1&amp;Operation=GetAdHtml&amp;MarketPlace=IN&amp;source=ss&amp;ref=as_ss_li_til&amp;ad_type=product_link&amp;tracking_id=learcrea-21&amp;marketplace=amazon&amp;region=IN&amp;placement=8193955536&amp;asins=8193955536&amp;linkId=70f5f1faa64f7b7b0ef3e82383078aed&amp;show_border=true&amp;link_opens_in_new_window=true\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\"><\/iframe> <iframe src=\"\/\/ws-in.amazon-adsystem.com\/widgets\/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&amp;OneJS=1&amp;Operation=GetAdHtml&amp;MarketPlace=IN&amp;source=ss&amp;ref=as_ss_li_til&amp;ad_type=product_link&amp;tracking_id=learcrea-21&amp;language=en_IN&amp;marketplace=amazon&amp;region=IN&amp;placement=819439211X&amp;asins=819439211X&amp;linkId=bd8edae9d99d2d46ad55b4a1c7086fba&amp;show_border=true&amp;link_opens_in_new_window=true\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" sandbox=\"allow-popups allow-scripts allow-modals allow-forms allow-same-origin\"><\/iframe> <iframe src=\"\/\/ws-in.amazon-adsystem.com\/widgets\/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&amp;OneJS=1&amp;Operation=GetAdHtml&amp;MarketPlace=IN&amp;source=ss&amp;ref=as_ss_li_til&amp;ad_type=product_link&amp;tracking_id=learcrea-21&amp;language=en_IN&amp;marketplace=amazon&amp;region=IN&amp;placement=8195297846&amp;asins=8195297846&amp;linkId=9795e1f088c016a3ac211e5bce62c5ea&amp;show_border=true&amp;link_opens_in_new_window=true\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" sandbox=\"allow-popups allow-scripts allow-modals allow-forms allow-same-origin\"><\/iframe> <iframe style=\"width: 120px; height: 240px;\" src=\"\/\/ws-in.amazon-adsystem.com\/widgets\/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&amp;OneJS=1&amp;Operation=GetAdHtml&amp;MarketPlace=IN&amp;source=ss&amp;ref=as_ss_li_til&amp;ad_type=product_link&amp;tracking_id=learcrea-21&amp;language=en_IN&amp;marketplace=amazon&amp;region=IN&amp;placement=8195297838&amp;asins=8195297838&amp;linkId=5af7347a226a0360956563d74039d421&amp;show_border=true&amp;link_opens_in_new_window=true\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" sandbox=\"allow-popups allow-scripts allow-modals allow-forms allow-same-origin\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on the_content --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on the_content -->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>BR Chopra&#8217;s <em>Dhool ka Phool<\/em>, in a microcosm, reflects the plight, and the predicament of an unwed mother.  The seminal composition in the film \u2014 <em>Tu mere pyar ka phool hai<\/em> encapsulates her anguish in the sensitive yet powerful words of Sahir Ludhianvi. 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